“Spring Cleaning the Negativity Out of Your Life”
Guest Writer: LaToya Hankins
Greetings, Hot Tea and Ice Sippers! We are now officially in the middle of spring; and depending on your faith, past the pastel parade that is Easter Sunday when it seems that everyone has to break out the suits in shades of sherbets. For the most part, the weather is better and people are making plans to get together for weekend cookouts, family road trips, and just being out and about. Good things abound and while the living may not be totally easy, the only ice to be found is in glasses.
Warmer temperatures tend to put people in a better frame of mind. It’s just something about the sun shining that seems to make things seem not so overwhelming. However, even when it’s warm enough to break out the open toe shoes and short sleeves, some people seem fixated on holding onto people who and situations that have nothing good to offer. The reasons for this are numerous. They include, for example, that we’re comfortable, complacent or confused about something better being possible. And unfortunately, the results are the same.
Too many of us are tied to negative thinking, to the point that it clouds our vision to what good there is within and around us. I’ve been guilty of being down hearted about things I couldn’t change, while totally ignoring the opportunity to celebrate the thing turning out right.
Let this be the year when we leave negativity behind like those corduroy pants we bought that were too tight when we left the store. We just have to be prepared to do some spring cleaning and shake the dust off our feet, and “keep it moving” when it comes to negativity.
Just as flowers are beginning to break through the dirt to emerge, we have to push through all the dirt that will hold us down and embrace the possibility of positive thinking.
Now like all things worth doing, a spring cleaning of the negativity in your life will not be easy. Negative thinking is hard to break. And sometimes, the most negative person in your life has been there the longest.
The key is to step back and evaluate the matters at hand. Does focusing on what went wrong really solve the problem? Is it really worth spending time listening to your friend complaining? You have to stop and realize that while negativity seems like a comfortable blanket that wraps around you so neatly and tightly, there’s no need for it when you can avail yourself of so much warmth outside.
Challenge yourself to get rid of attitudes and people that no longer work. Put on mothballs that self-doubt and that one friend who never has anything good to say about anybody.
Just as when we do spring cleaning, we start with one room at a time, ridding yourself of the negativity. Start in one area of your life at a time. Slowly cease hanging out altogether with that person who seems to have a perpetual grey cloud hanging over his/her head, or who possesses a mouth that utters a complaint instead of a compliment. Instead of doubting your ability, find something to do that brings you happiness.
It will take time to change your social circle and your outlook, but it’s well worth the effort. It will be like having clean windows: everything will be clearer, and you will be able to make better choices.
Hopefully, having a lighter outlook will attract more positive things into your life. As well, that perspective should attract people to fill the space left vacant when you cut loose of those that weigh you down.
Until next time, Adios, au revoir, and I “holler.”
LaToya Hankins is the author of SBF Seeking, and K-Rho: The Sweet Taste of Sisterhood. Currently, LaToya is an employee of the State of North Carolina’s Health and Human Services department. Prior to that, she worked for nearly a decade in the field of journalism. An East Carolina University graduate, LaToya earned a Bachelor of Arts degree in journalism, with a minor in political science.
During her college career, LaToya became a member of Zeta Phi Beta Sorority, Inc., and currently is the president of the Chapel Hill, N.C. graduate chapter. As well, she is a co-founder and currently serves as the chair of Shades of Pride (SOP), a LGBTQ organization that hosts a yearly event in the Triangle area. SOP’s mission is to create opportunities to acknowledge and celebrate the diversity of North Carolina’s LGBTQ communities.
You may reach LaToya at her on line home, www.latoyahankins.com; email, email@example.com; Facebook, www.facebook.com/latoyahankins; and on Twitter, @hankinslatoya.
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