“Four Simple Words of Comfort”
Guest Writer: R. L. Norman
It was so dark in the room that I couldn’t see my hand in front of my face. It was so dark that I could probably hear a pin drop; that’s if a pin did drop. I know that if I were a kid, I would probably be scared, calling for my mommy.
But I wasn’t scared! I actually felt safe. I felt like nothing or no one could harm me. I felt like I could handle anything in life. But that wasn’t always the case.
A friend of mine told me this one day while we were having lunch. I have known Kevin since our college days at Tuskegee University. After graduation, he went into the military and traveled all over the world until he settled down in North Carolina and became a stock broker. I went to New York and became an engineer. And, we’ve kept in touch over the years and became great friends.
During the years, we talked several times a month; and due to our busy schedules, we’d see each other occasionally. And from time to time, we’d get together for weekends–either in North Carolina or New York.
But this particular weekend, we decided to meet half-way and spend the weekend in Washington, D.C. We both had never been there, and were excited to see Obama’s House: the White House.
So, on this particular Friday afternoon, we met in the lobby of the same hotel we were booked in. For almost two years, I hadn’t seen him face-to-face; therefore, I was understandably excited.
I arrived at the lobby first, anticipating the arrival of my old friend. I stared at the elevator doors, waiting for them to open for what seemed like an eternity. As I waited, I was thinking about the first time I met HIM. He was dating my slut of a roommate who was cheating on him with every Tom, Dick–and sometimes John. I felt bad for Kevin, and befriended him once he found out the truth by catching my roommate in bed with another guy! That was so long ago, and there we were.
When the elevator doors finally opened, I was surprised to see that my once broad-shouldered, 220 pounds, 6’2” friend was now practically a skeleton of a man! Now, he was about a “buck fifty,” bald, very slim–and walked with a cane. I tried my best not to show the surprised and concerned expression on my face. However, I’m sure he immediately noticed it.
As we did our welcome embrace, I was afraid I was hugging him to hard. I thought I might break him because he seemed so fragile. We stood there for a while and did out usual laughing and joking. It was just like old times except for the fact that I could not help but have the thought in the back of my mind that something was terribly wrong with him.
We decided to go to lunch before we began sightseeing. After that, we had dinner before we did the D.C. nightlife, looking for men.
At lunch, we did our usual catching up on each other’s lives. He told me about his job as a stock broker, which he truly relished. He loved “playing with other people’s money,” as he put it.
I told him about working on Park Avenue in New York. He remembered that I’d always dreamed about working there. And I told him that I was single mainly because I worked a lot—which he also did. But on this trip, we both decided to forget about work and do a lot of playing.
After some chit-chat back and forth, and laughing about this and that, he got silent for a moment. I just stared at him because it was obvious that he had something on his mind.
The silence was eventually broken when he said “Honey, I have to tell you something.” He was smiling as he stared at me for another brief moment.
“Sure, what’s up?” I replied, a concerned tone enveloping my voice. As I listened with great interests, he told me his story.
“Well,” he said,” one day out of the blue, I woke up with chest pains. I didn’t think much of it. I just thought it was something I ate the night before. The pain would come and go, and still I didn’t think that it was serious. And you know how most of us Black men are; we don’t want to go to the doctor. We are supposed to be big strong men that can handle anything. But of course, sometimes that’s not true. Women are the strong ones and I commend them for that.
“Anyway” he continued, “after a few weeks I decided to go to the doctor. I finally made it after canceling several appointments, thinking and praying my pain would go away.
“After many tests, I went back to the doctor for my results. That’s when he informed me that I had lung cancer and that it was serious.”
Needless to say, Kevin’s revelation took me aback! But not just because he divulged this like he was telling me some “everyday event in his life.” It was because he told me this with such a positive attitude, confidence and smile on his face. And, I was especially affected by him adding that even if the radiation and chemo didn’t work, he’d “one day pass away to heaven.”
Kevin admitted that he hesitated to tell people–especially his closest friends–because they immediately treated him differently. Obviously, I was concerned and sad when I realized the seriousness of all that he said. After a few comforting words from me and some words of assurance from him, he was still smiling like he was on top of the world; while I, on the other hand, tried my best to smile.
I asked him: “How can you be so upbeat about this?”
He responded that from time to time, he’d let the world stand still and listened to God tell him the four little words of comfort. I was confused by what he meant.
Until he explained it.
He said, “When I first received my diagnosis, I sat on my couch numb from shock! I sat there for what seemed like hours. It felt like time stood still as I sat there alone. And I felt like I didn’t have anyone in the world…and I was scared! Scared of what the future may hold or should I say, ‘may not hold’.
“Finally I went into my bedroom and drew all the curtains to make the room completely dark. Then I lay on my bed. It was so dark in the room that I couldn’t see my hand in front of my face. It was so dark that I could probably hear a pin drop; that is, if a pin did drop. I know that if I were a kid, I’d probably be scared and calling for my mommy. I wanted to shut the world out for a while. To make it seem like the world stood still while I came to grips with the reality of my situation.
“I laid there for what seemed like an eternity until suddenly I wasn’t scared anymore. I actually felt safe! I felt like nothing or no one could harm me. I felt like I could handle anything in life.
“That’s because suddenly, I swore I heard God whisper in my ear the four simple words of comfort. He whispered, ‘Everything’s gonna be alright’.
And then the Bible verse of Philippians 4: 6-7 filled my mind. It basically reads, ‘I can do anything with God who strengthens me if I just have faith’.
“After a while of thinking about those four simple words, I realized that it was true: “Everything IS gonna be alright’! I can handle this.
“And from that moment on, I smiled and enjoyed life the best I could. I realized that some things in life are going to be a test of faith: a test to make us stronger in life’s ups, down, trials and tribulations.
“I decided that I was going to be strong and think positive. That’s why every day, I wake up with a smile on my face and count my blessings. Even though sometimes the chemo or radiation is so bad that I can hardly move. And sometimes, I get real sick and can’t get out of bed for a while. But I know everything’s gonna be alright.
“So eventually, I got up, opened the curtains and let the sun and the world back into my blessed life.
“But of course, like anyone else, sometimes I get down and lonely. Sometimes I just want someone to hug me and whisper in my ear, ‘Everything’s gonna be alright’.
“Sometimes we go through stuff and don’t tell anyone. We keep it locked away because we don’t want to be a burden to anyone.
“But sometimes, we just need for them to give us a hug and whisper in our ear.”
At that moment I stood, pulling Kevin up with me. I then hugged my dear friend and whispered in his ear, “Everything’s gonna be alright.”
It was such an extraordinary moment! As we both exhaled, it seemed as if his positive energy was transferred to me It seemed like the precious feeling of God’s love flowed through our bodies as I suddenly felt like I, too, could handle anything.
That was five years ago. And today, Kevin is doing well. And from time to time, we still meet and chase men.
Thinking back to that day, I realize that a positive attitude does indeed make a difference. That’s why I always try to have a smile on my face to share with the world. A smile to let people know that life is great; and hopefully, that positive attitude will make someone’s day.
To all the people out there who are going through trials and tribulations in their lives, you are not alone. Your God is by your side.
And it’s those people that we should give such simple things as a hug and a whisper of those four simple words of comfort in their ear.
So hug someone today and whisper, “Everything’s Gonna Be Alright.”
R. L. Norman is a writer, performer and author of the popular series of novels entitled, “Honey Let Me Tell You.” The fourth and latest installment is “Love Is Complicated.” The sequel will be available soon. As well, he performs“Norman’s One Night Stand,” a one-man show he conceived and wrote, showcasing the main character of his series. R. L. also is writing a play based on “Honey Let Me Tell You.” All of these endeavors are part of the production company he’s forming. You may reach R. L. at his on line home, www.rlnorman1.wix.com/honeyletmetellyou; by email at: firstname.lastname@example.org; on Facebook at RL NORMAN; on Twitter, @rl_norman; and on Instagram:rlnorman1.