A husband was another matter. There are some beliefs still floating around in this youth-obsessed society of ours that men of a certain age, especially two African American men of a certain age, can’t find love and sustain a long-term marriage together; of course, the idea of two women or two men legally marrying seemed impossible 50 years ago. Yet here my husband and I are, married 11 years and still going strong (yes, I was 57 when we were married). I had to smile when my fellow Black alums from college told me, “Once you hit those double digits, it’s forever.” For those of you who are posting wedding photos of Black male couples, keep doing it; it lets brothas know that dreams can and do come true. If you are posting older Black male couples, it gives hope that there are those out there whose marriages are sustainable, and can last for a lifetime.